So, are you having any more children?

by , under Mommy Debates and Social Issues

So, something happened yesterday.  I know the person didn’t mean anything by it, but it still rubbed me the wrong way.  My fiancé and I decided to have yard sale to get rid of some of our son’s newborn through 6 month clothes and other stuff we don’t use for him anymore.  A lady came by to take a look and was talking with us about her soon-to-be-born grandchild.  During the conversation she off-handedly said about the clothes, “You should keep these for your next kid.”

I smiled and politely laughed before replying, “We’re a one-child kind of family, so we aren’t having anymore children.”

She replied, “Oh, don’t say that.  My sister said that four kids ago.  You’ll see.”

You’ll see.

I don’t know what it is with people insisting that we will or should have more than one child.  I’ve actually gotten comments like this many times in the few months I’ve had a baby.  Some people even berated me because of my insistence that we only want one child, saying things like…

1.) He won’t have anyone to play with.
2.) He’ll be spoiled.
3.) He won’t learn how to interact with other people, won’t learn how to share, and will become selfish.
4.) That’s selfish of you.
5.) You’re stupid if you think you won’t accidentally get pregnant.
6.) That’s what I always said.  Shut up, Timmy and go play with your eight siblings!!  I said shut the f*** up! Don’t make me come in there.

I’m pretty sure all the one-child families out there would be incredibly insulted by this list.  I am.  I suppose these people would rather I have more children than I can emotionally handle than have an only-child.  I’m sure the lady making the comment at my yard sale by no means meant any of this, but it really wears away at you hearing it all the time.

I also enjoy the implication that my fiancé and I are stupid when it comes to having sex.